ADULTHOOD

THINGS THAT CAN HINDER US FROM BECOMING ADULTS:
1. AUTHORITY FIGURE THAT DOMINATES AND DESTROYS RATHER THAN EMPOWERING AND DISCIPLINING.
"FATHER, DO NOT PROVOKE YOUR CHILDREN TO ANGER BY THE WAY YOU TREAT THEM. RATHER, BRING THEM UP WITH THE DISCIPLINE AND INSTRUCTION THAT COMES FROM THE LORD." EPHESIANS 6:4
2. OUR REBELLION AGAINST;FAILURE TO LEARN HOW TO SUBMIT.

3. NO AUTHORITY FIGURE IN OUR LIFE.

GROWING OLDER IS INEVITABLE. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL.

*GOD'S GOAL FOR YOU IS TO COME OUT OF CHILDHOOD INTO ADULTHOOD.

WHEN WE FAIL TO GROW UP: SYMPTOMS

INORDINATE NEED FOR APPROVAL

FEAR OF DISAPPROVAL

GUILT

SEXUAL ISSUES

FEAR OF FAILURE(ADULTS GO LEARN/CHILDREN FAIL) FOR ADULTS:FAILURE=PRACTICE.

NEED FOR PERMISSION

LOSS OF POWER

RIGHT OR WRONG VS. DIFFERENT

ANXIETY

BY: H. CLOUD

LEARN TO ACCEPT BOTH GOOD N BAD

A WRONG RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE REAL AND THE IDEAL COMES FROM

TWO SOURCES: NATURE AND NURTURE.

WE ARE ALL BORN WITH THE SINFUL NATURE. WE WISH TO BE LIKE GOD.

WE HAVE LOFTY VIEW OF THE IDEAL SELF! WE ARE NURTURED BY

IMPERFECT PEOPLE. WE INTERNALIZE OUR PARENTS CRITICAL NATURES INTO A

SELF-EVALUATING SYSTEM THAT WE CALL OUR CONSCIENCE, IT SPEAKS TO US IN

THE SAME WAY OUR PARENTS DID...LOVING AND ACCEPTING OR HARSH

AND CRITICAL. PROCESS AND VALUE NEGATIVE FEELINGS, ACCEPT

BADNESS AND WEAKNESS FROM EVERYONE.

WE ALL GOOD AND BAD. WE NEED TO HAVE RELATIONSHIPS WITH

REALITY, BEING REAL, NOT IDEAL. REFUSE TO DISCARD OTHERS, WHEN THEY

ARE NOT PERFECT. ACCEPT FAILURES. FORGIVENESS. CANCEL THE DEBT. IT

CAN BE DIFFICULT TO CONFESS , FAULTS, SINS, IMPERFECTIONS.

PRAY-GOD WILL REVEAL THE TRUTH OF ONES GOODNESS AND BADNESS.

COVERING UP HATRED AND GRIEF , THEY COME OUT IN ALL SORTS

OF OTHER WAYS, PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS , DYSFUNCTION, ADDICATIONS.

WE NEED TO COMBINATION OF GRACE AND TRUTH AS DEMONSTRATED BY JESUS.

BY: H. CLOUD

"You're Beautiful" By: MercyMe

BORN AGAIN by Third Day

MY TALENTS

FEELING GUILTY FOR HAVING MY OWN TALENTS AND GOALS, BECAUSE PEOPLE TRY TO MAKE MY CHOICES FOR ME! DOES GOD WANT ME TO ALLOW OTHERS TO DO WHATEVER THEY WANT TO ME OR TO OTHERS? GOD TELLS US MANY TIMES TO REBUKE OTHERS ( MATT. 18:15-18). TO NOT DO SO IS TO GIVE PEOPLE ONLY GRACE AND NO TRUTH. IT ENABLES PEOPLE TO REMAIN IMMATURE. GOD HAS GIVEN US GREAT RESPONSIBILITY AND FREEDOM TO MANAGE OUR LIVES, HE EVEN RESTRICTS HIS BOUNDARIES SO THAT WE HAVE OUR OWN WILLS AND CHOICES. WE ARE NOT ROBOTS, HE DID NOT

CREATE ROBOTS.

WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR OUR CHOICES. SO WE HAVE A LOT OF SAY SO IN THE DIRECTION OUR LIVES TAKE. MY CHOICES, I HAVE MADE A LOT OF BAD CHOICES IN MY LIFE. GAINING AWARENESS, OF WHO I AM. BECOMING AWARE OF MY FEELINGS, ATTITUDES, BEHAVIORS, THOUGHTS, ABILITIES, CHOICES, WANTS, LIMITS.

GOD IS INTERESTED IN THAT WE NOT REMAIN IMMATURE.